Openmind
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Once again, I am not saying that "God ... wanted us to have sex ONLY when 'time is right for procreation.'" I am simply saying that morally licit sex is sex that is open to the possibility of conception, even if conception happens to be impossible for that couple or at that particular time.
You're actually suggesting that what is morally licit ought to be determined by the convenience of your laundry schedule?
Yes, they can -- by avoiding sex during fertile periods, or abstaining altogether.
I have not denied any of this. There is a unitive aspect to sex, as well.
All I'm saying is that the sex act, to be morally licit, must be intrinsically ordered toward procreation -- whether or not procreation happens to be possible at that moment.
First of all, what in the world has John Locke to do with this?
Second, I said just yesterday that John Locke was an idiot (the philosopher -- I dunno who you're talking about).
Third, I'm getting quite tired of your vapid emoting. I've done you the courtesy of engaging you at the level of adult thinking without resorting to petty sniping. You can at least reciprocate.
Well, with due respect, your idea of God is a figment of your imagination utterly unmoored in anything like a rational philosophical or theological understanding of the universe. He is the product of your whims and desires and emotions and your "conscience," not a studied and reasonable consideration of the facts.
And yes, I believe life is a good in its own right and not something to be discarded willy-nilly because you might not have as many material comforts as you wish. Yours is the ideology of abortionists and practitioners of euthanasia and utilitarian dictators. To Hell with it.
If you have nothing useful to contribute to this debate, you can at least recuse yourself from it with dignity, rather than resorting to such a disgraceful show of histrionics.
In the meantime, I'm going to continue puncturing holes in your ill-considered prejudices.
I am not making a religious argument but a philosophical one: First, that everything that exists can be said to have a purer "form" or "essence" in which it participates, and that the goodness of a thing is determined by the degree to which it instantiates this essence; second, that the human person also has an essence in which he participates, and therefore his goodness derives from how well he instantiates it; and third, that because man is partly a physical creature, that essence is necessarily partly informed by biology and evolution.
And biology and evolution make clear that the human sexual faculty serves the end of procreation.
And yet I've been making the argument for some time now, but I'll make it again:
If goodness consists in exercising one's faculties in a manner consistent with their telos, and if the human sexual faculty is oriented toward procreation, than morality demands that every sexual act be intrinsically open to life, even if procreation happens to be impossible for that couple or at that particular time. Simply because that is the essence of the sexual act, and goodness consists in exemplifying that essence.
You may be tired of my emoting. That's fair.
I am tired of your trying to impress everyone with your big words and big theological and philosophical theories as if they are the absolute only truth.
Try speaking like a human being, not like a theology text book. You are either in the seminary or you are a student in theology that is doing his "homework" by trying to explain the theories he is studying so that they can BEGIN to make sense to him! It reminds me of a boy friend I had, many, many years ago, who attended a boarding school ran by Jesuites. . . He sent me daily "love" letters who were full of "his" beliefs in God, and "his" theories about God's will for mankind!. . .I was about 2 years younger than he was, and I was soooo impressed by how articulate and "saintly" he was. . .I fell so embarrassed by my own, much simpler understanding of what God's desire was for my life achievement! . . . Until two years later, I was assigned the SAME readings from the SAME books he had been pledgerizing in those 4 to 5 pages daily letters! I was sooo glad I kept those "precious letters" wrapped up in a cigare box. . .Obviously, I aced that class!. . .after all, it was all a repetition of what I had "learned" from my boyfriends two years before!
I'm sorry, I am not impressed either with your "professional journals" rethoric, or your own view of what morality consists of.
In fact, I do not find much of what you are saying either relevant to real life, or very moral. My understanding and my relationship with my personal/universal God is my own, my right, and I find it a lot more satisfying, and a lot more liveable and nourishing to my life and the life of those around me than ANYTHING I ever learn from 18 years of Catholic school teaching! So, you keep your own ideas about "licit sex" and your "philosophies" and your "God," and I'll keep mine! At least, I know that mine has served me well (very well) in a 40 year long marriage!
Am I strange to find the idea of my husband ejaculating in the bed next to me because it "isn't time to procreate" ridiculous and even offensive? Does it have to do anything (or so little!) with "laundry?"
Well, If you think so. . . you probably, as I mentionned, don't have a wife. . .and probably never will!
God didn't create humankind with the only goal to procreate. In fact, if you believe in the genesis, he NEVER even thought of procreation before Adam and Eve "tasted of the apple!"
You may think you are very smart. . . you may even be in your own way. . .but, to me, you are freaky as religion and sexuality are concerned.
I believe this should cloture our discussion. Good luck finding your way to God, to happiness, and to love.