That could be. The "tribal" areas appear to be pretty much ungovernable.
Is there a way we could help them and keep them as an ally, or do you think it's time to go in with guns blazing and wipe the Taliban out ourselves?
Well, when you say "go in guns blazing and wipe the Taliban out ourselves" it would suggest that we were capable of doing that. We have been in Afghanistan in a big way for years now and the Taliban still exists even in that country. I do not think that a Pakistani invasion would solve anything, and would really create more problems for us than anything else.
So, what can we do? Really, sadly, the best option right now is to support the Pakistani government, and continue to find and eliminate Taliban, and other terror leader, when we can.