I'll admit. I live in southern New Hampshire, where just about the worst thing that happens is cow-tipping. I don't have any idea what it is like to live in a warzone.
Do you?
Who carpet bombed anyone? We have the technology to drop a missile down a chimney. So outside of a few mistakes based on bad intelligence, or that targets of interest surround themselves with children and human shields, we are not carpet bombing anyone...
If anything, it is suicide bombers (see Islamic terrorists) who are the ones going out of their way to kill women and children.