A: I suggest upbringing plays more a part in that.
B: I suggest that supporting a system that works and having people reject it, is better than supporting a system that doesn't work and having people accept it. Always give out the right information. Whether people choose to follow good advice is on them, and the consequence of their actions are on them.
It has to do with personal responsibility. The idea that where you are, and the situation you are in, is largely due to the choices you have made.
No, divorce never has sanctity. There is nothing holy about breaking up something that is supposed to last forever. You are never going to convince me of this. Being a lair is never sanctified. Never.
However, I do understand that this happens. Yes I understand why she got a divorce from this monster. Yes I would get away from him for her own protection. But that does not make it sanctified. There is nothing sanctified about divorce. Never.
But more to the point, most people do not divorce over an abusive spouse. Most of the time they divorce over "unreconcilable differences". But marriage is about that. Every male and female have huge unreconcilable differences. It's inherent. Marriage is about putting down your selfishness and doing things the way the other wants, for their benefit, not yours.
I was shocked a few years back to find a report that said happily married couples fight just as much as unhappy couples. The only difference between those that last a lifetime, and those that end in divorce, is forgiveness and working through it.
I hate taxes. There is nothing good about taxes, but I understand it must happen. I hate divorce. There is nothing good about divorce. However, I understand in specific situations, it must happen. That makes it neither good, nor holy.
Please inform your sister that when a man says that she must take birth control because he's not ready for kids, he's really saying he does not love her. Love is accepting the responsibility of the women and the consequences of loving the women. She should have been told that. Sadly parents fail to show their children what love is and is not. As such, she married a man that never loved her. Perhaps is she had known that him telling her to take birth control so he doesn't have to deal with any ramifications of sleeping with her, meant that he never loved her, she would not have married a monster.
